Nov 24

Are you unknowingly assigning your child a role?

Our children’s birth order and our own family history are large factors in how we treat our children. The way we view our children’s behavior will have a profound affect on the way we respond to it. Parents that were mistreated by an older sibling in their youth may over identify with their own younger children.  Try and remember to treat your children as you want them to be, not as they are. If your child is being mean to a sibling, remind the aggressor of how kind he/she can be. If your child is identifying with the role of a victim, teach him/her how to assert himself in an appropriate way. Great ideas on how to do this in the book, “Siblings Without Rivalry” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish